Most of us are familiar with online dating sites these days. Online dating is a way of meeting a potential love interest using the Internet. The web is home to myriad dating sites that cater to a variety of people, preferences and lifestyles. Matchmaking methods include personality quizzes to match each user to people who best complement his personality and customizable searches through users' profiles.
Among online dating sites proved to be the most popular are Match.com, followed by eHarmony, Plenty of Fish and OK Cupid. Sometimes, social network such as Facebook or Twitters also can be an online dating room for teenagers or adults and especially for those who seek for the right one.
According to the article, the attitudes toward online dating have also taken a positive spin. Polling 2,252 adults in the United States, the Pew Internet organization found that among those polled, 59 percent agreed with the statement that "online dating is a good way to meet people," compared with just 44 percent in 2005. And 52 percent agreed with the sentiment that "online dating allows people to find a better match for themselves because they can get to know a lot more people," up from 29 percent in 2005.
In my point of view, with the advancement of technology and how it revolutionize human to interact between each other such as social media, make it is so easy for people to make friend from every part of the world. Not only people can have some few in their friend’s list but also they are able to get to know the person that they like as much as detail from the information provided by the person who is sometimes they could have the same hobby or interest. Hence, it will make the interaction between two people that share the same hobby or interest more interesting and in the same time they can get to know well about each other.
Based from the article, among the people who have used online dating, 66 percent have gone out on a date and 23 percent said they married or had a long-term relationship with someone they met online. Even further, 42 percent of those polled said they know an online dater, while 29 percent know someone who married or had a long-term relationship with a person met via online dating. Among the Internet users surveyed, 21 percent agreed with the comment that "people who use online dating sites are desperate," though that was down from 29 percent in 2005.
As far as we are concern, not everyone prefers or choose online dating to seek the right one. Online dating also has its own pitfalls whereby a lot of cases such as murdering, kidnapping, raping or sexual harassment has reported happened to online dating users. For example, some users especially girls or women, are easily being influence or expose to some irresponsible group of people that have a hidden or bad agenda on the people they found in online dating site.
More than half of online daters said they met someone who "seriously misrepresented" themselves in their online profile. And 28 percent said they were contacted by someone in a way that made them feel harassed or uncomfortable. Around 42 percent of women expressed that feeling, compared with just 17 percent of men.
Other than that, free dating systems for example, however, allow anyone to join, which leads to a diverse database but could also attract members who are not serious about using the system and could therefore abuse the system or its members.
Online dating companies are financially interested in keeping members communicating through the website, though people may find it easier to communicate using traditional email or other instant messaging systems.
Lastly, the users who find a mate, or choose to stop using the site for other reasons, may forget to take down their online profiles, leading to databases inflated with useless information for other users. Also, accounts filled with false information can lead to confusion or abuse of the system. Some users may experience a lack of trust with the site and its members, because it is not easy to verify the information posted on each profile.
Faithfully yours,
Harun Hatta
Based and aspired article by Lance Whitney, October 21, 2013 8:32 AM PDT.
http://news.cnet.com/8301-1023_3-57608454-93/online-dating-hooks-up-with-one-in-10-american-adults/
what a topic, harun! haha anyways, though i agree 110% that the danger of online dating is higher than its benefit, i believe there are many couples out there (not so much in malaysia, us perhaps?) that are happily married after dating each other online. it is just another form of meeting someone new, just with today's advancement of technology, everything is easier faster odder. But, the risk of being cheated or disturbed occur almost anywhere. sooo.....i think...people need only to be ......smarter?
ReplyDeleteFinally someone is talking about online dating! Haha! Many wonders can be done through this magic and virtual match maker, I think. Not that I have any experience of online dating but Hollywood movies has told me so. Then again, if referring to a local context, I don't think Malaysia is at the full utilization of this online dating. Not only that, I think there are a big number of people who aren't even aware of its mere existence. Probably if you try it out in Malaysia, you're bound to meet some pervert, I might say, posing to be that sexy, handsome, tall French man of your dreams....
ReplyDeleteSo I think for Malaysians, I don't think we should be diving into this part of the internet yet. Maybe we should just stick to the "Hai boleh berkenalan..." on facebook..
Anna
i absolutely agree with you harun. if shila says she agrees 110%, i am telling you that i agree with you shila and anna 210%. it is very true when anna said that it is more risky that it is more beneficial to the users. exposing and giving people necessary information is just like giving the bad people on tips or ideas how to kill/ rape you. i just think that it is still cant be implemented in malaysia. online dating cant be perceived as something that gives you benefit. most of the malaysian citizen will take it as an advantage for them to commit more crime such as first date that leads to kidnapping case. also to comment something on anna's opinion that malaysia should just stick to 'Hai boleh berkenalan...', this could also lead to another case. when teenagers especially this school kids who are still new to the internet world, they might just give out unnecessary information to anyone especially to those men with bad intention who uses fake account just to communicate with this young kids. so 'Hai boleh berkenalan..' could just be a start of a future crime case.
ReplyDeleteRegards,
Aimie
Well, this is an interesting topic to discuss about. For me, online dating sites like this are very dangerous indeed as they tend to give out information to strangers. I do have to agree with Tengku's opinion of giving 'bad people' tips on hurting others. Other than that, it might cause worse situations such as black mailing or financial fraud. We can relate this to the famous 'Awang Hitam' cases which they use their skills on flirting women but the real intention was to get the money from their victim.
ReplyDeleteWhen you were talking about "Awang Hitam" you werent refer to yourself right Ejad? Just checking...
DeleteOk, jokes aside. I never really agree with the idea of looking for someone to date online. One if of course because it is indeed dangerous, because people tend to lie when they are connecting with people "online".
I think someone should put a stop into this especially in our country. Like Tengku said, teenagers are very much active on the internet, so they have the tendency to try this online dating. And those who have bad intentions are aware of this, and they WILL take advantage from this. Which resulted cases like rape, kidnapping, and murder. All in all, I think online dating is a no no, because it is very risky.
One is* of course
DeleteI'm not referring to MYSETH, its the Nigerian, mostly people from the African countries. I hope you do your research before posting any comment Syahmi :) Peace!
DeleteMYSETH! Hahahahahahaha! This is so funny!
DeleteOnline dating such an interesting topic. Actually, the difference from other social network maybe the function of the online dating which is focus on someone want to get married/ dating.
ReplyDeleteBut, as Harun mentioned above about the disadvantages of online dating that may lead into murdering or kidnapping. So individual itself must to be careful with whom they interact and dont easily to meet people on the website. Ya, maybe individual itself have a hidden agenda itself. Actually its not really suit on Malaysia society to have this kind of medium.
In conclusion, the individual itself must self regulate themselves and careful in any social media!
Thank you.